Contrarian take..... I think "hookup culture" and "situationship" are just new language for what has always been "casual dating." I think it's normal to date (defining that as "seeing people w/o exclusive commitment) for years without falling in True Love (commitment), especially while young, and to feel the tension of both rejection and repulsion in romance and sex. Low key it's character-building, high-key it's emotionally vulnerable and that is *real*
In my experience, the brutality lies in the half truths, lying by omission, and outright dishonesty. Some situationships are totally awesome, which maybe is what inherently makes them “casual dating.” It seems that situationships are defined by the gut-wrenching non-communication.
I think that lack of communication that makes dating painful is a hallmark of youth, when you can barely conceptualize how you feel, let alone get it across to someone else (or work up enough nerve to do so). With experience and time you have more language and confidence to speak up and have a "where is this going" convo that would either dead end a situationship or move it into a relationship (for example). But when you're 22, like in the SNL skit, you're insecure and inexperienced and taking L's and that's ok <3
Well-said. You hit the nail right on the head. HONESTY is the best policy. Everything else about it is a sideshow. If everyone were honest with themselves and their partners about what they really wanted and their true intentions, I doubt very much we would even be having this conversation at all.
Clearly any relationship (regardless of its form) that is literally built on avoiding the truth is just asking for trouble IMHO.
I am a big advocater for escorts. I will say it from the male perspective, but I am sure some one could make equivalent argument from a female perspective.
People call you a loser, but actually I spend less money, much less time (which is money, especially if you run you're own business like I do), you have 0 drama, and you get more sex, then most men do (at least agter some years of relationship).
I always chose girls who are paid and treated well, enjoy what they do, have a good life, no addictions, etc.
I am very happy and this release so much tension after each week, and for many men this would be much better option than spending huge money and time on failed dates, or jn relationships with a girl who is bored of hjm, turn kff the lighr, and is thinking in Brad Pitt when they have sex.
Of course if you are a very good looking man (top 10%) you don't need this, but for the rest, it is a better deal.
For women, idk if that is a solution but I am sure they can find others. Possibly having sex with chads and then draining simps online lol, this way they have bith needs met, the sex, and the material ones also.
Following Immanuel Kant's categorical imperative, "Always treat humanity as an end in itself, never solely as a means", would solve so many problems in that regard. It is basically the Gold, Silver. and Platinum Rules all rolled into one, and really the only hard and fast rule we really need when it comes to sex, whether casual or otherwise. Too bad Kant was so antisexual, otherwise he would had an excellent philosophy about sex as well.
Ahaha Love it! I’m hearing you as the coach of a team who just got cooked by 20 in the first game of the season. “Just gotta go out there and get better, keep working, it’s a long season, etc.”
Contrarian take..... I think "hookup culture" and "situationship" are just new language for what has always been "casual dating." I think it's normal to date (defining that as "seeing people w/o exclusive commitment) for years without falling in True Love (commitment), especially while young, and to feel the tension of both rejection and repulsion in romance and sex. Low key it's character-building, high-key it's emotionally vulnerable and that is *real*
In my experience, the brutality lies in the half truths, lying by omission, and outright dishonesty. Some situationships are totally awesome, which maybe is what inherently makes them “casual dating.” It seems that situationships are defined by the gut-wrenching non-communication.
I think that lack of communication that makes dating painful is a hallmark of youth, when you can barely conceptualize how you feel, let alone get it across to someone else (or work up enough nerve to do so). With experience and time you have more language and confidence to speak up and have a "where is this going" convo that would either dead end a situationship or move it into a relationship (for example). But when you're 22, like in the SNL skit, you're insecure and inexperienced and taking L's and that's ok <3
Well-said. You hit the nail right on the head. HONESTY is the best policy. Everything else about it is a sideshow. If everyone were honest with themselves and their partners about what they really wanted and their true intentions, I doubt very much we would even be having this conversation at all.
Clearly any relationship (regardless of its form) that is literally built on avoiding the truth is just asking for trouble IMHO.
You are probably correct. It seems like there is really nothing new under the sun here.
You are probably correct. It seems like there is really nothing new under the sun here. And nothing inherently wrong with that per se.
I am a big advocater for escorts. I will say it from the male perspective, but I am sure some one could make equivalent argument from a female perspective.
People call you a loser, but actually I spend less money, much less time (which is money, especially if you run you're own business like I do), you have 0 drama, and you get more sex, then most men do (at least agter some years of relationship).
I always chose girls who are paid and treated well, enjoy what they do, have a good life, no addictions, etc.
I am very happy and this release so much tension after each week, and for many men this would be much better option than spending huge money and time on failed dates, or jn relationships with a girl who is bored of hjm, turn kff the lighr, and is thinking in Brad Pitt when they have sex.
Of course if you are a very good looking man (top 10%) you don't need this, but for the rest, it is a better deal.
For women, idk if that is a solution but I am sure they can find others. Possibly having sex with chads and then draining simps online lol, this way they have bith needs met, the sex, and the material ones also.
Following Immanuel Kant's categorical imperative, "Always treat humanity as an end in itself, never solely as a means", would solve so many problems in that regard. It is basically the Gold, Silver. and Platinum Rules all rolled into one, and really the only hard and fast rule we really need when it comes to sex, whether casual or otherwise. Too bad Kant was so antisexual, otherwise he would had an excellent philosophy about sex as well.
Ahaha Love it! I’m hearing you as the coach of a team who just got cooked by 20 in the first game of the season. “Just gotta go out there and get better, keep working, it’s a long season, etc.”